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Couples
Therapy
You're not enemies. But lately it doesn't feel that way. Therapy for couples who want to understand what's happening between them and do something about it.
Book a Free 20-Minute ConsultationThe Same Fight,
On Repeat
Couples come to therapy for different reasons, but underneath most of them is the same problem: two people who have stopped being able to reach each other.
Each partner has a version of the story, and both versions contain blind spots. A third person can often see what two people inside the dynamic cannot.
I work with expats, intercultural couples, and internationally mobile partners. If you're looking for a therapist who will tell both of you the truth, including the parts neither of you wants to hear, we should talk.
As an intercultural couple, we felt misunderstood by traditional therapists. In The Other Therapy we found someone with first-hand experience.P&D, Turkey
What Couples Therapy
Addresses
The presenting problem is rarely the real problem. These are the patterns underneath.
Communication and Conflict
You're not fighting about what you think you're fighting about. Arguments about money, parenting, or who dropped the ball sit on top of something deeper. The problem is rarely that you don't communicate. The problem is that what one person means and what the other hears are not the same thing.
Emotional Distance
The subtle version of relationship trouble. No dramatic conflict, but something has changed: conversations are practical, affection is rare, and you coexist but that's about it. By the time most couples name it, the distance has been building for a long time.
Trust Ruptures and Infidelity
A betrayal changes the relationship you thought you were in. Rebuilding takes more than time, remorse, or reassurance. It requires a direct reckoning with what happened, why it happened, and what each of you needs to do differently to move forward.
Intercultural Relationships
When two people come from different cultural backgrounds, the relationship carries assumptions neither partner can see at first. Expectations around money, family, gender roles, emotional expression, and conflict are shaped by culture long before the relationship begins. I'm in an intercultural marriage myself. I help bring attention to what's underneath the surface argument.
Codependency and Imbalance
Some couples don't fight much, but the relationship still isn't working. One person's needs take priority. One partner carries more emotional weight. The dynamic becomes more caretaking than partnership. From the outside it looks stable; on the inside, at least one partner is building resentment.
Starting Well: Premarital
For couples who want to build something solid from the beginning. Have you had the conversations that matter: about money, children, family, conflict, roles, sex, and what each of you expects when times get hard? Easier to address those assumptions before they take on a life of their own.
My Approach to Couples Work
Couples therapy with me is direct. I am not a referee, and I'm not here to decide who is right. I'm here to help both of you see the pattern that keeps producing the same painful result, and the ways you each sustain it. Both partners will hear things they find uncomfortable.
I'm trained in PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) and RLT (Relational Life Therapy). PACT helps us understand what happens to each of your nervous systems under stress. RLT looks at the adaptive stances you each learned before the relationship began, how those patterns show up now, and what it takes to change them.
Most couples therapy stays too close to the presenting problem. My training is designed to get underneath it.
How It Works
Direct
I'll be honest about what I see, including the patterns both of you may not be aware of and the ways each of you contributes to the difficulty. This is not a space to vent while I stay politely neutral. I'll have a point of view.
Online, Across Time Zones
All sessions over secure video. 75 minutes. I'm based in Istanbul (GMT+3) and work with couples worldwide. Both partners can join from the same location or separately.
Depth Over Communication Tips
The goal is not to hand you techniques and hope that does the job. I want to understand the relational pattern driving the conflict so the conflict itself becomes less necessary.
Three Steps
Book a Free 20-Minute Consultation
A short video call with both partners to talk about what's going on and whether working together makes sense. No forms, no commitment.
Schedule Your First Session
If we're a good fit, we'll book your first full 75-minute session at a time that works across your time zones.
Start the Real Work
We identify the pattern and begin addressing it from the first session.
Testimonials
As an intercultural couple, we felt misunderstood by traditional therapists. In The Other Therapy we found someone with first-hand experience. It's been a profound experience.
P&D, TurkeyTrevor's demeanor, thoughtful listening skills, and valuable questions empowered me to speak candidly. He was able to reframe and demystify things that I believed to be absolutes.
Korey K., FloridaSince I started with Trevor, I've made huge progress. He strikes the perfect balance between empathy and challenging my old beliefs. I wouldn't be the same person today without him.
Wendy L., AustraliaNot ready to book? Send us a question
Frequently Asked
Most couples therapy fails because the therapist acts as a referee, validating both sides without challenging either, or sessions become a weekly venting space with no direction. I identify the relational pattern driving the conflict, name it clearly, and challenge both partners on their contribution. Not always comfortable, but it creates change.
Both partners need to be present. If your partner is reluctant, the free consultation can be a low-pressure starting point. If only one of you is ready, individual therapy is a strong alternative. Sometimes change in one partner shifts the dynamic enough that the other becomes willing to join later.
Depends on the complexity and your motivation. Some couples come for a specific issue (a trust rupture, premarital work) and need a few months. Others are working with deeper patterns. I don't keep couples in therapy longer than necessary, and we check in regularly on whether it's helping.
Yes. I work with intercultural couples regularly and am in an intercultural marriage myself. Cultural differences create friction that many therapists don't recognize quickly enough. I understand how assumptions about family, money, emotional expression, and conflict shape a relationship from underneath.
Sessions are 75 minutes over secure video. Both partners can join from the same location or separately. I work across time zones daily, so scheduling is straightforward as long as you both have privacy and a reliable connection.
Free 20-Minute
Consultation
Pick a time. No forms, no commitment.