About - The Other Therapy

My Approach

Almost all of us repress certain aspects of ourselves as a result of challenging, overwhelming and adverse childhood experiences. These repressed elements, which we experience as fragile, terrifying and overpowering, are what we refer to in psychology as our core vulnerabilities. As adults, we unconsciously organize our lives around avoiding our core vulnerabilities. (Examples of core vulnerabilities vary from person to person, but they can include: anger, sadness, abandonment fears, loneliness, fears of not being worthy of love, engulfment fears, ect.)

This unconscious drive to avoid certain aspects of ourselves is energy-consuming and limiting. We have to be careful to not put ourselves into situations that might activate the vulnerabilities, so we have a restricted amount of choices with regards to how to respond to and interact with the world around us. These are known as avoidance strategies.

A greater sense of psychological freedom results from no longer needing to employ our life-long avoidance strategies (which are also the catalyst for those recurring patterns that we can’t seem to put a stop to). This entails a willingness and ability to tolerate a conscious experience of our core vulnerabilities.

I work with my clients to increase their capacity to rest in their core vulnerabilities. The work is counter-instinctual. I tend to jump right into this work. Other therapies would consider this style premature. They would advocate for an approach that spends more time unpacking psychological defenses and exploring one’s childhood. I respect those approaches, but I think they can, at best, risk delaying work that could begin sooner and, at worst, perpetuate one’s sense of being a problematic person.

I operate under the assumption that my clients are capable of tolerating more experiential intensity than they give themselves credit for. By not relating to my clients as though they were fragile, my clients begin to cultivate the confidence that they are strong, worthy, fundamentally healthy and able to show up fully in their lives.

Trevor is an up and coming star in the psychotherapy scene! He brings a strong sense of masculinity, purpose, and values to his work with couples, families and individuals. Frankly, in this industry it is hard to find clinicians as driven, passionate and clear as Trevor. If you are considering working with or hiring him, do yourself a favor and just call. You can’t go wrong here.

Mark Azoulay Boulder Therapist

Trevor is brilliant at cutting right to the core, framing issues that once seemed convoluted with clarity and simplicity. He is intelligent and insightful and uses these qualities to guide people toward understanding their inner workings and break out of longterm self-sabotaging patterns. Trevor is a gifted therapist and will be an asset to any client that comes through his door.

Jordan Urban Colleague

I have shared classes, facilitated a support group, and known Trevor as a colleague for 5 years. Trevor’s engagement and passion for life has inspired me in many ways. His strong intuition, empathy and curiosity certainly benefits his clients as much as it has benefited me. His courage in facing challenges undoubtedly provides great guidance, support and insight for clients. I consider Trevor to be a remarkable person with impressive integrity.

Randy BreunigColleague

Certifications/Trainings

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PACT LEVEL II

PACT (The Psychobiological Approach to Couple’s Therapy) is widely considered to be the cutting-edge modality in working with couples. Whereas many other approaches to couple’s therapy focus almost exclusively on communication and conflict skills (which are important in their own right), PACT drops beneath the surface into a thorough investigation into the hidden, behind-the-scenes dynamics that run the show. This bottom-up approach offers couples a paradigm-shift that allows them to reimagine and redefine their relationship in lasting ways. As of now, PACT II is the highest credential being offered.

SPT

SPT (Synergetic Play Therapy) is a non-directive approach to working with children that is gaining international notoriety for its impressive impact. The basic tenet of the model is that children unconsciously set us up to feel the difficult feelings that they experience but that overwhelm their still developing systems. The therapist then uses this information to model healthy self-regulation. The child eventually masters and exercises healthy control over their feelings, instead of the other way around.